I’m sure most of us have read or at least heard of the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It talks about how each of us has a way the we feel loved the most. For me, I feel loved the most when people serve me. I love gifts, and kind words, and hugs, but do my dishes or sweep my kitchen floor, oh man, I feel so loved and cared for. Steve’s love language is physical touch. He loves the other things as well, but hugs, a foot rub, sitting close on the couch together, even just being inthe same room together, any kind of physical contact is how he feels love.
The funny thing is, we show love the way we like to receive it. So true. I serve those I love and Steve wants to be close. The challenge is to show love to your husband in the way that means the most. Ladies, it is more bang for your buck. I can spend the day cleaning and cooking, mending and running errands, paying bills and organizing and feel like I have shown so much love. But he may not feel it. I hate thinking my time has been wasted. Do what means the most to him, it is part of knowing him better and loving him where he is at. It is wisdom. We only have so much time and energy to give each day, lets use it wisely and let him feel the most loved.
Just a side note, Steve has 4 sisters and a brother. They all took the test and they all scored crazy high in the love language of physical touch. If you know his family at all, you really would not be surprised. Just another testament to me of how very different we all may be and how important it is to figure out the needs of those we live with and love and care for.
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